Vanessa Del Rio you ain’t….

It was Monday morning and I had just arrived at the gig for another long day on the “plantation”. I plugged my laptop in and checked some emails from the night before. It was approaching 9:30 AM which is usually the time I make my daily trek to Dunkin’ Donuts for a medium coffee, cream [...]

From the email bag…

Dear MadP – A girlfriend of mine sent me the link to your sight and as a result I’ve been an avid reader. I haven’t commented much but I have a situation that you may be equipped to help me with. I’ve been in a relationship for the past three years and I am ready [...]

When it all falls down…

I bumped into an old friend the other day on my lunch break. I was heading to my favorite lunch hangout (the record store) when I heard a voice. It was an ex co-worker of mine named Lisa who I hadn’t seen in ages. She escorted me to the store and we chatted a bit. [...]

Fatherhood revisited….Part I

Black fatherhood has many challenges and nuisance from the seemingly unending battles with mothers to society simply and unequivocally cheering for the demise and failure of black men. Good fathers don’t provide enough entertainment or drama and therefore are never really given the chance to shine. All the while father’s that are [...]

On the soapbox….again…

          Today I was reading a blog regarding the nuisances of cheating.  The blog didn’t cover any new ground concerning the topic and basically sought to re-tread all the commonalities that have already been discussed to death.  You know…the normal “once a cheater, always a cheater” nonsense.  It was written by a woman and by [...]

The rules of engagement…

This New Year has brought me an array of emotions and situations.  Love, so far in 2008, has showered some with favor and others with discontent. One of my favorite cousins (shout out to Bre Bre & DJ Show) got engaged on the first day of the year and I recently discovered that a couple [...]

Get it together…

I had an interesting conversation with a co-worker of mine before the holidays.  We were heading to our company Holiday Luncheon (I still refer to it as a “Christmas” Luncheon…I hate when folks take the “Christ” out of the holidays.  We changing shit around because of a hand-full of sensitive ass mu-fuckas feel it’s not [...]

Careful what you wish for…

     I was checking out the Chokklit Shop the other day and was perusing the “Watcha Like” thread on the message board.  This is a section where folks can come by and describe what they’re looking for in a mate.  Some ladies wanted the “thug-type” others wanted the “stronger, sensitive, affectionate type”.  The dudes have [...]

The CHOKKLIT SHOP!!!!

Join myself, DJ Diva, RareBreed & Chokklit in a new venture.  Come by the Chokklit Shop and see what’s poppin’!!

You’ve been hustled, now what?…

I received a couple of emails from some cats going through a period of what I like to call “forced celibacy” in there relationships and they are seeking my guidance in this matter.  Now, I can address this in several ways…I can go all “angry black man” on ‘em but I think I’m going to [...]

From the ex-broad to the next broad….

My parents divorced when I was 13 and eventually my Dad went on to another relationship and ultimately getting remarried.  I was cool with that even though dude kept it a secret until I found out 10 years later…”What! You mean to tell me that broad you’ve been living with all this time is your [...]

Skillz to pay the bills…

I just recently discovered that Michael Baisden has a show on the TVOne Network.  I happened upon it one night in my desperate search to find something, anything worth watching.  The show consists of himself, and sidekick George Wilborn and two special guests….one is usually a comedian and the other a specialist of some sort.  [...]

Nailah Franklin update…

Check out this piece from Mary Mitchell of the Chicago Sun-Times.  She did an exclusive interview with Reggie Potts, the former lover of Nailah who was thought to be the one who sent her some supposedly threatening emails before her dissappearance.

What’s the hurry?…

Everything in life has a certain balance, a natural path or course if you will.  Something’s just can’t be tampered with or hurried along…it could lead to destruction or late nights pacing.  Such is true with relationships…you have to allow it to breathe and mature like a fine bottle of Old English 800 or Coqui [...]

The ultimate betrayal

            Back in the day when I was frolicking through the dating jungle some of the cats I hung out with adopted a “no kids” policy when it came to dating.  I never really adhered to that philosophy because you can limit yourself and miss out on meeting someone very special but I did have [...]

Upgrade my ass…

          This morning on the train I chimed in on a conversation about engagement/wedding rings.  One lady had recently demanded that her husband “upgrade” her ring.  She said she had earned it and that she was due.  Some ladies agreed but the smart ones looked at her like she had fallen off the nut truck.  [...]

Honor & Obey…

Everyone wants to feel needed, wanted, desired…it’s the basic validation of any relationship.  I’m sure my wife wouldn’t want to have anything to do with me if I didn’t acknowledge her ego or assured her of her apparent sexiness on a daily basis.  I mean, what’s the point of being with someone if they pointed [...]

So he got some porn, big deal….

About a month ago I had an opportunity to “work” from home due to a malfunction in the a/c of the building I worked in.  It was damn near a thousand degrees in the “Chi” and I was stuck in my cubicle sweatin’ like a runaway slave.  So when I was afforded the opportunity to [...]

“Didn’t I tell yo ass not to call me here!

I was engaging in a little channel surfing this weekend and came across a show called “Black Men Revealed” on the TVONE network.  I like TVONE, this is the network BET wants to be when it grows up …something for the grown colored folk.  The topic of the day was “Cheating” and they had a [...]

The beautiful melee’…

I spent the first months of my first year of college getting my “crew” together.  Back then I was only known as “Steve from Chicago” the cat that had an addiction to MD 20/20 (Orange Jubilee was the truth!) and blasted House music from his room on the weekends.  Eventually my crew consisted of a [...]