I read an article about a women’s group in Nairobi trying to organize a “sex strike” in an effort to resolve political turmoil…whatever that means. I think it’s a bit silly but to each his own. In my travels I’ve heard of so many women resorting to this type of tactic to resolve internal relationship issues or to just get some “get back”. I knew a woman who withheld the “cakes” for 6 months just to get an Infiniti truck. She eventually got it…it was a used whip which to me was a testament of the type of “cakes” she had to offer….used booty. If some of you ladies are contemplating trying to straighten your dude out by greatly limiting access to the “nappy (or shaven… whatever floats your boat) dugout” here are a few pointers:
1. First and foremost you have to be GOOD at the sexual circus or at least somewhat decent. If your performance is lackluster or half-ass you are already dead in the water. Hell, your man might even go a head and buy, do or apologize for whatever he did or didn’t do out of appreciation.
2.“Cakes” have to be handed out with some consistency. If you’re one those every 6 months broads….then…I mean really. What type of leverage do you think you’re working with?
3. You need to decide if whatever he did or didn’t do was that bad that you’re willing to risk the stability of your relationship. I mean…sh*t can go down hill real fast when folk start playing games.
In the end what have you really accomplished? That you’re not mature enough to communicate with you’re man in a civilized manner so you have to resort to “hood rat” games? You may get what you want but after it’s all said and done you have definitely lost the battle…square biz.
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“Lysistrata” by Aristophanes
exacly Paul. I think it works better when you don’t look like Cindy Sheman.
Ok, I’m late responding to this one, but I had to chime in….You are absolutely correct. “Holding Out” is a tactic used for years and for years it hasn’t accomplished the goal. I must admit that I have used this in my former life to find that I “made a mountain out of a mole hill.” As a “Grown Ass Woman” I am clear on my needs, wants, desires and respect a Brotha who can hear me and respond accordingly. Holding out because you’re not feelin’ him no more is one thing (also worthy of a discussion), but holdin’ out to get your way is “some bulls_ _ _!” I don’t care how good “the cake” is…please know that there is always better somewhere…always!
They can actually hold out 6 mos?! !!
Yeah, I agree with you about that. It’s a game that’ll cost them in the end.
Mos def…
I have always wondered what women think is the benefit of holding out. Even if material things are gained, they would just breed resentment on the part of the person who had to actually spend money to get what they originally signed on to receive as a gift. It’s like those credit cards that offer no interest rate for 6 months, then all of a sudden, one day wake up to a high ass interest rate, plus they tack on the interest for the 6 months you were intially promised for “free”! Personally, I couldn’t do the holding out thing to myself. If I’m mad, that means that I probably need to blow off even more steam, so why not make him pay his penance in the bedroom? There’s no quicker route to redemption than the one paved with big ol’ orgasms! One more thing…I really need to know where I can buy one of those cakes on the picture? I love it, LOL!!